If you are fortunate enough to know Hailey, you know that she is a very bright and vibrant child. She has a huge heart and is always thinking of others. She absorbs information about people she meets and remembers the smallest details. Hailey has struggled with impulse control and with her need to talk ALL the time. We finally broke down and made an appointment with her doctor to discuss ADD. There are a lot of reasons why we struggled with that decision but the determining factor for me was that her self-esteem was suffering. She called herself a “bad” child and that was not something I could handle. We wanted to help her learn better strategies to make it through her school day without having to be constantly redirected by her teacher.
Ironically, just about the time we would have submitted the completed forms to the doctor, Hailey started doing better in school and out. We always told her that we kept on her about her behavior because we knew what she was capable of and we wanted her to grow up to be the best person possible.
Here are a few glimpses of our sweet Hailey over the past few weeks:
- Hailey went to her first ever sleep over at her BFFs house. We were very anxious about how she would do. We knew she would have fun and not miss us a bit, but would she remember her manners? Would she be demanding or whiny? Her friend’s mom told Ed that Hailey was very funny and had the best manners. Awesome. VERY happy parents.
- Hailey told me that her teacher and her husband were out because they have the swine flu. She said that she did not know that this morning, she just thought that Thomas (their baby) was sick. She said she prayed this morning that Thomas would feel better and that she would also feel better (her stomach has been hurting). When she found out who was really sick, she said she stopped what she was doing to pray for them.
- Hailey is the “Terrific Kid” this week and gets to choose 3 classmates to sit in a booth with her during lunch. She said that she has been choosing one person that is a friend that she knows well and two people who she does not know well so that she can get to know them. She has been asking all 3 “getting to know you” type questions during lunch.
- She told me yesterday that
- Hailey got the “faith in God” award at the Y today for putting others before herself and helping out without being asked. She received the homework award last week because she did her homework without talking. That NEVER used to happen!
- I gave Hailey 2 cookies, one for her and one for her to give to Leah. She showed them both to Leah and told her she could pick first. When we got home today, she asked Leah if she wanted to play the Wii first (even though Leah played first yesterday). These may not seem like a big deal to you, but in the past, Hailey would want to see which one was bigger/better and get to choose what she wanted before Leah could. She also would whine and give us a “you love Leah better” guilt trip if she perceived that Leah received more love or attention from us.
- Until very recently, when Hailey asked for something or asked to do something and was told no, she would pitch an absolute fit. Now she just says “ok”. She also is great about “yes ma’am/sir” and “No ma’am/sir”.
- She is reading about Daniel Boone and is so excited about it and keeps telling me that I should read it because she thinks it is really interesting…ummmm…I’m glad she finds it interesting but I think I’ll pass!
- She accused her daddy of stealing her tooth fairy money because she only got a $1 coin this last time instead of the $2 bills she has been getting…and she felt her dad’s hand under her pillow.
I’m not sure what prompted these changes , but I am sure it is a combination of prayer and consistency. I love her with all of my heart and am so proud of the person she is growing up to be!