We are having serious issues with jealousy in our house. I spent the last 10 days with Hailey and Leah and had to be very careful with dividing my affections and my attention. Here are some questions I got from Hailey this week:
“How come when you look at Leah you smile and when you look at me you make a face like this (she frowned)?” (ok, I probably do frown at her more than I do Leah but she WHINES and I HATE whining!)
(at a restaurant) “Why does Leah get to sit by you and I have to sit across from you?”
“Why do you love Leah more than you love me?” (too bad there is no way to prove you love both your kids the same)
“Why does Leah get all the hugs?” (and if you believe that, you are crazy)
“Did you do that with me when I was Leah’s age?” (Yes, only more because we just had you!)
“Why does Leah get a purple egg and I have a pink one?” (yeah, you just have to roll your eyes at that one)
Not to mention all the times she dissolved in tears because Leah had come to snuggle beside me first. Hailey would not think to do something until she saw Leah do it and then she would be offended at ME that she had not thought of it first.
I wanted to minimize the fighting and whining on Easter morning so I was very careful to buy duplicates of everything for their baskets. I bought two small dolls but they had different outfits – one was dressed as a duck and one as a bunny. I did this to minimize fighting over whose was whose. I asked Ed who should get what and he made a good point that the bunny would probably be the more popular one and Leah would not care if Hailey got it but Hailey would care if Leah got it. sigh. If only it was that easy. The bunny outfit had feet and the duck outfit did not. Hailey’s question? “How come you can see the toes on Leah’s doll but you can’t see them on mine?” argh!!! We can’t win!
We have talked to Hailey until we are blue in the face (Carolina blue, to be exact) but this is just something she is going to have to get over and grow out of.